One Night Only
Occasionally in life we can all find ourselves a little lonely. It happens to the best of us! We just find ourselves craving human contact. An itch that sometimes as much as we fight it just needs to be scratched. So this week I decided since we have talked about love and relationships so much…that is was time to talk about something that happens all the time; in the gay and straight world…and that’s picking up a one night stand. We have all done it at one point or another in our lives rather that was the intention at the beginning of the night or not.
The first thing to do in achieving your task is do a little research and find the perfect location to find Mr. Right Now. I suggest you turn to the internet for reviews of places in your area, or go out of town to find someone. The best idea is to go out somewhere that you don’t usually go. This is a good idea for a few reasons. The first reason is if you go somewhere you frequent and “everyone knows your name” it could distract you from your main goal. The second reason is that if you go somewhere new you could find yourself becoming the new guy, and this could peak others interest in you.
The next task is that you want to look your best. I suggest a manicure and pedicure, and a haircut, and any necessary waxing. You don’t want to have any unsightly hairs or other things that could be considered unattractive, unless hair is your thing…then I suggest you skip the waxing. A new outfit is essential. You want to look and feel your best, so go shopping and maybe even splurge on something that looks great. Make sure it fits in all the right places, and is not over the top. You still want to be comfortable in what you are wearing, because if you are not it will show and in turn look unattractive.
OK so you have a location picked out and you are ready to go. I suggest you go alone. Lets face it you are a man on a mission and don’t need chatty Kathy distracting you. When you get there I would make a lap around the establishment, just to see what’s out there. Get a good look at who’s around and try to pick out some possibilities. After you have made a lap; order a drink and commit to a location. Sip the drink! No one likes a lush, so watch your alcohol consumption. Strike up conversation with people, remember to have fun and laugh. It is so important to let your true personality come out, because this will make you more attractive. Once you have found someone you like… offer to buy them a drink. Keep the conversation light and flirty. It is important to show interest, but don’t be a tramp about it! A simple brush of his arm, hand or shoulder with your hand, and look into his eyes should show that you are interested. If you are out at a dance club remember to move with the music; ask him to dance. Again remember to move with the music no crazy dance moves, but you do want to start to enter his personal space to stimulate his interest and get the night moving in the intended direction.
After the end of the night if he does not invite you to come with him…”you should say something like it was really nice meeting you…would you like to continue this conversation at my place?” If he says no don’t worry you did nothing wrong, maybe he just is not a one night stand kinda guy. Say your goodbyes with grace and remember tomorrow is a new day. If he says yes…then continue to your house. I suggest that you take him back to your place so you have more control of the situation. Once you get him there make some drinks and let the fun begin! Just remember to be safe! I cannot stress that enough, because you don’t want to be emailing my boy Ty and asking…”It burns when I pee what should I do?” Be safe and HAVE FUN!
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Love ya Bitches,
Adam
