Moving On.
There comes a time in every single person’s life that a dating relationship will end. It could be because you just grew apart, or that you found that the attraction had faded. For whatever reason it happens to us all. Now when this happens most times even the person who ended the relationship can be in pain, especially if the relationship has been a long drawn out affair. Not to worry the pain will fade, but I have some tips for you that will make it fade a little faster.
The first tip is finding someone to talk to about the relationship! Rather it is a friend or someone close to you like a relative it is good to have someone to talk to in these types of situations. It’s just nice to have a friendly ear to listen. Find this person, fill them in on what’s happening; if they don’t already know, and share your true feelings with this person. Make sure this person is someone that you can be honest with about how you feel. If at all possible, find someone that knows both of you, but is your friend so you can get a true outside perspective on the relationship. Make sure that you are actually listening to what they have to say. It may be painful to hear what they have to say, but it is always good to get an outside perspective on things especially a relationship that did not work.
The second tip is immediately start exercising, or kick up your workout if you are already hitting the gym. This is important for two reasons. The first is that exercise is a great stress reliever and causes endorphins, which put you in a better mood. The second reason is that you have to be ready to run into your ex, and I know it sounds catty but there is nothing better than running into your ex when you are looking hot and feeling great!
The next tip is reconnecting with old friends. When we get involved with a significant other, often times, some of friendships suffer because you naturally have less time to devote to those relationships, because you are focused on your love life. Now that you are newly single these friends will be a great way to get reconnected back to the single world.
The third is plan a night on the town. Nothing crazy, but have a good time. Go somewhere different and have fun with your friends catch up on old times and try to put the past behind you. Hey who knows you may even meet a good rebound guy that will make you forget all about your current situation.
The final tip is move on. Your relationship clearly did not work for a reason. Only you and your former partner know the true reason it didn’t work. If you did something to end the relationship; then learn from it and move on! If you don’t think that you did anything then take sometime let your wounds heal and get back out there. I know it’s hard, but it’s like I always say “If they are reckless with your heart then they were never worthy from the start.”
Love ya Bitch,
Adam
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Extra Curricular Activities
In today’s society it has been said that some of us will spend as much as 40% of our lives at work. Especially, if you are as hungry for ultimate success as much as yours truly. So it would seem natural that interoffice sexual escapades may be pretty likely. I actually think that a little play time with an office mate may not always be a bad idea.
There was a recent study that showed that people are 75% more likely to meet their life partner at work as opposed to a bar setting. It really doesn’t even seem that far fetched if you think about it. If you are in a career that you love it would only make sense that a possible love interest would share the same passion about your career of choice, and look at it this way, at least you have one more thing in common to talk about. The only issue is that your romance may fizzle, and your job may be the sacrifice that you pay to the love gods for your time in the sack. So, one must ask the question…when is a relationship worth the risk?
I believe to ask the question when is your interoffice relationship worth is risk is a very responsible way to think about your extra curricular activities. It is crucial that you enter this kind of situation with a level head. I know that this may be a little difficult, but you must think about the repercussions of your actions, especially, if you are higher on the food chain than your new boy toy.
Lets say that things just kind of happened and one thing leads to another and you find yourself in this situation the first thing to do is…wait and see. Just leave the situation alone and see what happens. I know that this may be a hard thing to do, especially, if the sex left your mind shattered and wanting more. Sexual tensions sometimes build in people and once it’s out there it sometimes can fizzle as quickly as it happened, so wait and see attitude is best in this situation.
So for the sake of keeping this short, let’s say that you got a little bit of something you like and wanna go back for more. I recommend that you tread lightly. No company wants a sexual harassment situation on their hands, so play it cool, but follow your instincts. Usually your instincts are never wrong, so pay attention to what is happening if he wants you as much as you want him things it will happen again, so just let it run its course. Don’t rush it…playing the game in this instance can be part of the fun and attraction.
The bottom line is that if you think this is someone who can truly make you happy…I say go for it. Life is short and you should have a little fun. The trick to this situation is to just keep it light. If it becomes more serious, I would suggest that you and your new work “buddy” talk about your careers and possibly a job change for one of you. It is important not to let your new found happiness get in the way of your job. Lets face it business is business so if you want to continue the relationship I suggest a work separation. Either he finds a new job or you do. In the long run, who knows. You may even end up with the dream man and the dream job. Just remember to watch yourself, nobody wants to date a boy who spends his days waiting in the unemployment line for a check. Also, it is important to remember what I always say “If they are reckless with your heart then they were never worthy from the start.”
Love ya Bitch,
Adam
